Bill Eddy
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Lying in Family Court
When I became a family law attorney/mediator after a dozen years as a therapist, one of the biggest surprises was the extent of lying in Family Court: lies about income, assets and even complete fabrications of child abuse and domestic violence. Why would people lie so much, I wondered? How did they get away with it? The following is my psychosocial analysis of what I believe has become an epidemic: Men lie: It was a sad phone... (posted by Bill 1 year 287 days ago.)
When I became a family law attorney/mediator after a dozen years as a therapist, one of the biggest surprises was the extent of lying in Family Court: lies about income, assets and even complete fabrications of child abuse and domestic violence. Why would people lie so much, I wondered? How did they get away with it? The following is my psychosocial analysis of what I believe has become an epidemic: Men lie: It was a sad phone... (posted by Bill 1 year 287 days ago.)
Is Your Child Alienated?
IS YOUR CHILD REJECTING ONE PARENT? In divorce or separation, 10% - 15% of children express strong resistance to spending time with one of their parents and this may be increasing in our society. It may be the father or mother. It may be the parent the child "visits," or the parent where the child lives. Is this the result of abuse by the "rejected" parent? Or is this the result of alienation by the "favored" parent? The idea... (posted by Bill 1 year 287 days ago.)
IS YOUR CHILD REJECTING ONE PARENT? In divorce or separation, 10% - 15% of children express strong resistance to spending time with one of their parents and this may be increasing in our society. It may be the father or mother. It may be the parent the child "visits," or the parent where the child lives. Is this the result of abuse by the "rejected" parent? Or is this the result of alienation by the "favored" parent? The idea... (posted by Bill 1 year 287 days ago.)
Yes, No or I’ll Think About It
But you don't have to join in. Instead, you can use two simple steps that seem to help, no matter what setting you are in. If you think you are going to be dealing with an HCP, avoid getting hooked and feeding the conflict by reminding yourself of these two steps before you start talking. And if you are in the middle of an argument, you can always shift to this approach. First, let's look at a couple of typical high... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
But you don't have to join in. Instead, you can use two simple steps that seem to help, no matter what setting you are in. If you think you are going to be dealing with an HCP, avoid getting hooked and feeding the conflict by reminding yourself of these two steps before you start talking. And if you are in the middle of an argument, you can always shift to this approach. First, let's look at a couple of typical high... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
Responding to Hostile Mail (B.I.F.F.)
Hostile mail especially email has become much more common over the past decade. Most of this mail is just "venting," and has little real significance. However, when people are involved in a formal conflict (a divorce, a workplace grievance, a homeowners' association complaint, etc.) there may be more frequent hostile mail. There may be more people involved and it may be exposed to others or in court. Therefore, how... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
Hostile mail especially email has become much more common over the past decade. Most of this mail is just "venting," and has little real significance. However, when people are involved in a formal conflict (a divorce, a workplace grievance, a homeowners' association complaint, etc.) there may be more frequent hostile mail. There may be more people involved and it may be exposed to others or in court. Therefore, how... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
Narcissism and Leadership
With the new administration in Washington , D.C. , the issue of leadership styles has gotten a lot of attention. Barack Obama has been treated as a heroic figure, who lead an impeccable campaign. There are high expectations for his ideas of leadership in Washington . "Change," "Bipartisanship," and "No-Drama Obama" are catchwords every day in the press. He is compared to Lincoln and FDR. These leadership characteristics are used... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
With the new administration in Washington , D.C. , the issue of leadership styles has gotten a lot of attention. Barack Obama has been treated as a heroic figure, who lead an impeccable campaign. There are high expectations for his ideas of leadership in Washington . "Change," "Bipartisanship," and "No-Drama Obama" are catchwords every day in the press. He is compared to Lincoln and FDR. These leadership characteristics are used... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
Bullies At Work
Workplace bullying is a growing international problem. It is more than a one-time incident. It is a pattern of behavior between a bully and another worker which can demoralize, isolate and trigger illness in the target of the bully. What is bullying? Who does it? Is it increasing? What can you do to protect yourself? And what can employers do to promote a safe environment for employees? This short article attempts to answer some of these... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
Workplace bullying is a growing international problem. It is more than a one-time incident. It is a pattern of behavior between a bully and another worker which can demoralize, isolate and trigger illness in the target of the bully. What is bullying? Who does it? Is it increasing? What can you do to protect yourself? And what can employers do to promote a safe environment for employees? This short article attempts to answer some of these... (posted by Bill 1 year 294 days ago.)
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